I am not bridezilla…but I am a diva

I guess I kind of understand the whole “Bridezilla” thing. I remember that my first wedding was all about a million and one little details, and wanting everything to be just-so, and I guess I can see how this could be crazy-making for a bride-to-be…and a nightmare for those who have to deal with the crazy bride-to-be. But I was not That Bride, nor will I be for wedding #2.
That said, I can’t wait for our wedding day, and for the new adventures that will come with married and stepmama life. So, until further notice, there’s a good chance that my updates here, scarce as they are, will be all kinds of mushy. To wit:
This morning, for some reason, I had Beyonce’s “Diva/Hustler” song going through my head non-stop. I’m not even particularly fond of that song, but as with so many things Beyonce (and fungi), it just grows on you, I guess. Anyway, “Diva” got me to thinking about the first year or so of my relationship with TechBoo when he used to call me “Diva”, as a term of endearment. I didn’t get why, so I wrote this poem to him*:
Diva…Or, What’s in a Name?
You say it with such affection
but casual, like punctuation
like baby-honey-sweetie-boo
How you doin’ today, diva
What time is it, diva
Have you seen my socks, diva
Until one day I ask you:
“Why do you call me ‘diva’?
I am not channeling Diana Ross and her Supreme Ego
I am not an insecure, pop starlet making 14 minute, 58 second demands on you
I am low-maintenance
earthy
compassionate
self-less
humble
Can’t you see my humility?
So, I ask you: why do you call me ‘diva’?”
And, being the 21st century man you are,
you turn to Answers.com and read:
“Diva: one, an operatic primadonna
two, a very successful singer of non-operatic music: a jazz diva
for example…”
Man, you know I can’t sing…
“There’s more,” you say:
“a woman of rare, outstanding talent”
“the term derives from an ancient Italian word meaning ‘goddess’,
which, in turn derives from the feminine form of a Latin word divus, meaning
‘divine one’…”
“Stop me,” you say,
when you hear something that’s not true.
And I say:
“Go on…
and on…
and on…
and on.”
July 2007
*”…keep in mind that I’m an artist and I’m sensitive about my shit.”–E. Badu
Multi-tasking stats: I created this blog entry while also hoping that this cough is not H1N1 really nothing, contemplating sushi for lunch, and deciding which audiobooks I want to download from iTunes.

September 24th, 2009 at 1:00 pm
Awww. Now that’s what I like to hear a man calling a woman.
September 25th, 2009 at 3:52 am
I hope you’ll mush and gush often. It’s good to be in love. It’s good to be a bride again!
September 26th, 2009 at 4:01 pm
Hi Deesha,
It’s been awhile–but congrats on your upcoming nuptials. I was wondering how you and TechBoo (JB) would handle the parenting situation, so I’m glad that you talked about it in your article. Diva, Bridezilla, Mamalicious, Wonder Woman–whoever you are, I’m glad to read ya. LOL about the E Badu footnote.
September 26th, 2009 at 4:04 pm
Hey, Lady! I has been awhile. Thanks for stopping by!
Yes, we are taking the “parenting in two households” thing to another level. But we are committed to encouraging all the girls to see both places as “home.”
Hope all is well with you and yours!
~d
October 5th, 2009 at 2:29 pm
I hope you’ll mush and gush often. It’s good to be in love. It’s good to be a bride again!